Sex At Oxbridge: Year One – Book Update and Prologue

Hello! Apologies for not regularly updating the site, but things have been very busy in a good way. I am currently finishing up the final touches to the third chapter of the book to be released this weekend and also working on building a new website with a close friend of mine. LB made this one and I love him for it, but it’s time for a bit of a revamp and I am so excited to show everyone the new layout. In the meantime I wanted to take a moment to thank everyone who has supported me on GoFundMe and everyone who has bought the book so far. What’s been even more invaluable than the kind donations has been the fantastic feedback as well as the assistance of everyone in helping me copy edit the book. From pointing out simple typos to full on paragraph by paragraph sub-editing, I cannot tell you how much I appreciate everything that everyone is doing to help me make this book a reality. The reviews thus far have been overwhelmingly positive, but a close friend of mine said, “I had no idea you were going to write it like this and I love it,” [...] There's more...

People I Would Sleep With

To name a few … Originally posted on Feb. 6, 2014, at 10:14 p.m. Prince Harry Obvs. The guy at my local cafe Thank you for waking me up every morning, sexual. In a non-sexual way. Nicholas Hoult Sexy. As. I’ve wanted to hop on the right foot and do the wrong thing with him since Skins. Benedict Cumberbatch Weird sexy. Ollie Locke Out of pure curiosity. Though I’m not sure that I’m his type. Greg James He can come into me like a wrecking ball. What? His sexy voice gets me through the last hours of work, plus he’s funny and awkward which always goes over well with me. Especially his singing, which ranges from shrill to brilliant (the “knocking one out” tune to “Mulled Wines”). Extremely intelligent guys. You shut your mouth. Ian Somerhalder Do me Damon Salvatore Jonny Wilkinson The real reason I watch rugby. And look! He plays guitar! Captain Jack Sparrow My favourite pirate. Ted Sexy bear. I mean, if I lived in a Seth MacFarlane universe. Ron Burgundy Look, there’s a rainbow! Do me on it! Jennifer Lawerence Yeah I would. Jack Whitehall And pretty much any hilarious guy who is remotely attractive. And [...] There's more...

Sex at Oxbridge: First Year – THE BOOK

During my third year at university I was approached by one of the biggest publishers in the UK to write a book based on Sex At Oxbridge. As you may have noticed that book is not available to the public because it was never published. After many meetings the official word from the non-fiction department was this: While the editors absolutely loved your sample chapter, many of them felt that, in order for it to be a non-fiction book and to thrive in the market we publish into, it would need to be high on scandal and tales of debauchery/drugs/affairs with the don etc. I feel that this isn’t really what you’re about, and you shouldn’t have to compromise in that area as the fact that your writing isn’t salacious and gratuitous, but is honest and witty, is part of its ample charm, and is the reason why people keep coming back to read your blog. They also thought that you sounded like just the sort of person they’d love to go for a drink with, a desire not usually expressed towards the more ‘graphic’ female writers… Over the past couple of years I have considered what it would take to make my writing [...] There's more...

I Need Your Help to Keep ‘Sex At Oxbridge’ Going

Hello! I started writing Sex At Oxbridge because I saw a lack of content on the internet that I personally wanted to read in regards to sex and relationships. Over the past six years it has also become apparent that there are few media sites which are willing to host or publish the kind of news that I want to read. For that reason I am evolving my website into a platform for other writers and artists to share their own content whilst of course still writing about my own shenanigans.I’ve previously refrained from posting ads or asking for any contributions because this website was just a fun hobby for me. However, I want to make writing my full time job and want to be able to let other emerging artists use the platform I’ve built to gain attention as well. I did initially try to supplement the extra costs through Google AdSense, but unfortunately… To which I was like… The cost of running and maintaining this website full time is not exactly low. After being hacked twice in February I had to seek out a new hosting service which was more expensive than what I was already paying for, but the biggest cost is time really. [...] There's more...

Taylor Swift’s “Style” Isn’t About Harry Styles – It’s About John Mayer

*puts investigative journalism hat on* It’s theory time. Originally posted on Oct. 16, 2015, at 4:10 p.m. Earlier today after the release of One Direction’s new song “Perfect” a celebrity gossip columnist from The Sun took to Twitter to speculate what it was all about Via twitter.com And everyone was like Via tumblr.com The comment, albeit ill-informed, did make me wonder, who is “Style” actually about? radaronline.com Listen… Via hngn.com In 2009 John Mayer wrote a song called “Half of My Heart” which Taylor Swift sang vocals on. Shortly afterwards it was rumoured that they were dating… Because they were Via google.co.uk Then in 2010 Taylor wrote “Dear John” which had lyrics like: Dear John, I see it all, now it was wrong Don’t you think nineteen is too young To be played by your dark twisted games, when I loved you so? In 2012 John wrote “Paper Doll” which is a rumoured response to “Dear John”. He’s also spoken out on her song saying in a Rolling Stone article that it humiliated him and that it was, “cheap songwriting”. However, an earlier track on the album Paradise Valley where the song “Paper Doll” is featured is called “Wildfire” and its opening lyrics are: River’s strong you can’t swim inside it [...] There's more...

Aaron and SAO: Boozy Bitches Part III

Hello everybody! So last month seemed pretty dire at points, so my pal Aaron Butterfield and I decided to get drunk and talk about anything but the actual drama happening. We asked for your questions and we were inundated with amazing questions and comments which took us a couple of boozy hours to get through, hence publishing these in multiple parts. I also decided to save some bits for a rainy day and despite the unusually non-rainy day in England today it is metaphorically rainy as fuck for fans of One Direction at the moment so I decided to post the next part of our saga today! Here is part III of Boozy Bitches. To catch up on Part I click here and for Part II click here. Enjoy! As always, Sex At Oxbridge’s dialogue in italics and Aaron’s in bold. Having a private dance party to Beyoncé’s Formation while I wait I slay I slay I slay   I haven’t heard it yet …   STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING   I think we both know what’s goign to happne next AH Great minds think alike   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LrCHz1gwzTo   Let’s watch this bitch together live   Okay you ready? I’ll count down 3 2 [...] There's more...

Why Valentine’s Day Really Doesn’t Matter THAT Much

Valentines Day often challenges our views on love, and today social media outlets are filled with a barrage of opinions. So I might as well add another one. Originally posted on Feb. 14, 2014, at 3:21 p.m. My view on Valentines Day is pretty simple. tumblr.com I’ve had every possible kind of Valentines Day. s3-ec.buzzfed.com tumblr.com xclusivetouch.co.uk tumblr.com The best one obviously ended like this: tumblr.com Just kidding, it was like this: tumblr.com (Love you, mum!) Valentines Day does force you to examine how you feel about your current relationship status. tumblr.com I have been in many relationships. This is a brief visualisation of how most of them go: tumblr.com tumblr.com mrwgifs.com images1.wikia.nocookie.net i.imgur.com static2.wikia.nocookie.net cdn.gifbay.com tumblr.com tumblr.com lh5.googleusercontent.com tumblr.com media.giphy.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com p.gr-assets.com tumblr.com Then I run to my friends. Typically in tears. tumblr.com tumblr.com tumblr.com They try to impress the gravity of the situation on me. s3-ec.buzzfed.com They’re pretty supportive. tumblr.com My friends get me around to my real feelings on the matter. tumblr.com In general, I’m thankful for the loves that I have been fortunate enough to have in my life. But also glad that they’re in [...] There's more...

Aaron and SAO: Boozy Bitches Part II

Last week Aaron Butterfield and I decided amongst all our angsty chats and observations about what’s been happening in the media that it would be in everyone’s best interests for us to get drunk and talk about anything else. So we asked you for your questions and eventually answered them via loads of tangents. Here is Part II in our saga that I’ve aptly called Boozy Bitches. To catch up and read Part I click here. Per last time Sex At Oxbridge’s dialogue in italics and Aaron’s in bold.   Saturday Afternoon … Aaron is silent on social media after a night out in London…   How was da club? I felt like death all morning because ew clubs and ew london and ew drinking but I’ve just woken up from a nap and I am REVIVED Twinsies! I woke up early like hungover AF but then went back to sleep and just woke up like that dragon gif from Mulan. “I LIVE” EXACTLY THIS. It’s amazing how much coffee and midday sleeping cure a hangover. I need coffee asap. I’ve got one of those coffee making machines. That’s so vague I just realised. But like the one with the [...] There's more...

Perez Hilton Asked People To Vote On Whether Or Not They Believe The Women Claiming That Bill Cosby Raped Them

Thus furthering the culture of victim shaming. Originally posted on Nov. 20, 2014, at 9:58 p.m. In light of recent allegations against Bill Cosby, celebrity gossip blogger Perez Hilton decided to ask his Twitter followers what they thought. In the most inappropriate way possible. Wait…what? There were the obvious questions With obvious logical answers Going to the actual article made it worse. MUCH worse. Via perezhilton.com I mean, I suppose Perez has a point. Rape is very “icky icky poo” and “sad sad” after all :’( After a brief breakdown of the alleged assault he asks the world, “Do you believe the accusations against Bill Cosby?” The reality of the situation began to sink in Still waiting for an explanation. The worst part – people were ACTUALLY VOTING Via perezhilton.com VOTING ON WHETHER OR NOT THEY BELIEVE WOMEN’S CLAIMS THAT THEY WERE RAPED. So you liked The Cosby Show? Big deal, so did everyone else. But is anyone such an avid fan of Cosby (or anything for that matter) that they’re willing to suspend belief of the fact that multiple women have claimed that Cosby raped them? The answer to that is no. Or rather it should be, I’m looking at you the TWENTY-FIVE [...] There's more...

Sex At Oxbridge Media

Hello there! Thank you so, so very much for all the support I’ve received over the past couple of weeks in regards to the drama with having my content deleted and my website hacked. As I’ve previously mentioned, the reason I started this blog was because I saw a lack of content on the internet that I personally wanted to read in regards to sex and relationships. In the past week it has become apparent that there are also few media sites which are willing to host or publish the kind of news that I want to read. I wrote a speculative article for Buzzfeed which resulted in my entire 2.5 year profile of work being deleted. I then thought about how I could go about publishing the kind of content that would be free of editing and censorship, and it was then that I realised that handily I own my own website and began posting my non-sex life related articles here. The entire reason behind publishing on Buzzfeed in the first place was because they have a very easy editing tool and because I had intended to apply for a job as a writer with them, but that is [...] There's more...