Dear David,

Thank you so much for taking the time to read an comment on my website! I presume that since you had to enter your email address and name that you’re aware that I, as the admin of this website, can see that. And if I were to just publish your comment like normal everyone else could see that as well. I decided to do you one better and write an open letter as my response to your comment, which in my opinion is a bit misguided if I’m being honest. Let’s get to it, shall we? You said, and I quote: So you’ve been scammed (?) and are now trying your own – welcome to the millennials new world order. Your whole generation are fuckwits. Can’t be arsed to vote – see where that got you. Get in to financial problems – no worries I’ll crowd fund it. Create a successful Brand and then turn it into a 1D obsessed bore-a-thon. FFS you had gold in your hand and you chose to trade it in for shit. Just go back to the roots of your blog and write to your strengths; you’ve been off message for at least two years. No-one gives [...] There's more...

Taylor Swift’s “Style” Isn’t About Harry Styles – It’s About John Mayer

*puts investigative journalism hat on* It’s theory time. Originally posted on Oct. 16, 2015, at 4:10 p.m. Earlier today after the release of One Direction’s new song “Perfect” a celebrity gossip columnist from The Sun took to Twitter to speculate what it was all about Via twitter.com And everyone was like Via tumblr.com The comment, albeit ill-informed, did make me wonder, who is “Style” actually about? radaronline.com Listen… Via hngn.com In 2009 John Mayer wrote a song called “Half of My Heart” which Taylor Swift sang vocals on. Shortly afterwards it was rumoured that they were dating… Because they were Via google.co.uk Then in 2010 Taylor wrote “Dear John” which had lyrics like: Dear John, I see it all, now it was wrong Don’t you think nineteen is too young To be played by your dark twisted games, when I loved you so? In 2012 John wrote “Paper Doll” which is a rumoured response to “Dear John”. He’s also spoken out on her song saying in a Rolling Stone article that it humiliated him and that it was, “cheap songwriting”. However, an earlier track on the album Paradise Valley where the song “Paper Doll” is featured is called “Wildfire” and its opening lyrics are: River’s strong you can’t swim inside it [...] There's more...

Aaron and SAO: Boozy Bitches Part III

Hello everybody! So last month seemed pretty dire at points, so my pal Aaron Butterfield and I decided to get drunk and talk about anything but the actual drama happening. We asked for your questions and we were inundated with amazing questions and comments which took us a couple of boozy hours to get through, hence publishing these in multiple parts. I also decided to save some bits for a rainy day and despite the unusually non-rainy day in England today it is metaphorically rainy as fuck for fans of One Direction at the moment so I decided to post the next part of our saga today! Here is part III of Boozy Bitches. To catch up on Part I click here and for Part II click here. Enjoy! As always, Sex At Oxbridge’s dialogue in italics and Aaron’s in bold. Having a private dance party to Beyoncé’s Formation while I wait I slay I slay I slay   I haven’t heard it yet …   STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING   I think we both know what’s goign to happne next AH Great minds think alike   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LrCHz1gwzTo   Let’s watch this bitch together live   Okay you ready? I’ll count down 3 2 [...] There's more...

Aaron and SAO: Boozy Bitches Part II

Last week Aaron Butterfield and I decided amongst all our angsty chats and observations about what’s been happening in the media that it would be in everyone’s best interests for us to get drunk and talk about anything else. So we asked you for your questions and eventually answered them via loads of tangents. Here is Part II in our saga that I’ve aptly called Boozy Bitches. To catch up and read Part I click here. Per last time Sex At Oxbridge’s dialogue in italics and Aaron’s in bold.   Saturday Afternoon … Aaron is silent on social media after a night out in London…   How was da club? I felt like death all morning because ew clubs and ew london and ew drinking but I’ve just woken up from a nap and I am REVIVED Twinsies! I woke up early like hungover AF but then went back to sleep and just woke up like that dragon gif from Mulan. “I LIVE” EXACTLY THIS. It’s amazing how much coffee and midday sleeping cure a hangover. I need coffee asap. I’ve got one of those coffee making machines. That’s so vague I just realised. But like the one with the [...] There's more...

Aaron and SAO: Boozy Bitches Part I

On Friday evening I was talking to my recent confidant, Aaron Butterfield. For the sake of this conversation in order to distinguish what I say and what Aaron says I’ll put my text in italics and Aaron’s text in bold. We start this story midway through a conversation we were having…   Seriouslu Y My fucking phone saved a bunch of misspelled words to autocorrect because I didn’t accept the autocorrect once. Why is Apple trying to ruin my life   THIS. And when I type in caps all I get is my own terrible typos and it gives me rage   Haha anytime I start writing toma- it goes to TOMALONGADINGDONG because I quote that vine so much. This is the only useful autocorrect error   Hahahahaha Omg every time that vine comes up on my dash I live   It deserves an Oscar NELLAY I just love it so much. And I’m really happy that my comment is now in the widely circulated version Like I’ve made it I’m associated with that post via a dumb comment   Hahaha, I think you have far more appropriate claims to fame than that comment   It’s the personal victories, Aaron. I can [...] There's more...

Buzzfeed “Guidelines” And How They Don’t Pertain To My Account Suspension

After I published my first article regarding recent events called, ‘Is Louis Tomlinson The Victim Of A Character Assassination Campaign?’ I emailed it to the editor of Buzzfeed whom I have been liaising with and sending my work to since 2013. I told him how much traffic it had already generated and this was his response: Then on Monday, after my account inexplicably being removed despite bringing in over 100,000 views, I emailed the same editor whose reply was simply, ‘Sorry to hear that. If you drop community an email, someone there will be able to explain.’ So I did. I asked why, given that my articles were being promoted a week ago and generating not only social, but seeded views, would they suddenly delete an account that was bringing them free traffic? That is, after all, the aim of running a website is it not? To have people actually go there. I don’t even work for Buzzfeed, so I’m essentially free labour and traffic. Then I received a reply from Buzzfeed Community. Interested in finding out more about these policies I clicked on the link, but to add insult to injury it didn’t even work. And then I just felt bad [...] There's more...

Why Is Dan Wootton Disliked By Everybody?

Dan Wootton is a self-proclaimed journalist who writes for the Showbiz section of The Sun. To give those of you outside of the UK context for the kind of publication The Sun is, it’s on par with the National Enquirer in the US, or really any type of loo roll available around the world. As if I needed any more reason to dislike The Sun, they ran an article about my blog in 2010… It’s just… You can read the rest here if you so wish, but their repeated use of the random quote “voracious appetite for sex” (one that I’m quite sure they took from the Daily Mail as they are most certainly not words of my own) and the general tone of the entire thing is just awful. They didn’t even try to contact me to ask about said appetite for sex, and if they had I would have assured them that that it was far less of a ‘hungry hungry hippo’ kind of appetite and more of a ‘cheeky Nandos’ kind of thing. Needless to say, I have never (in all temporal past, present, future terms of the word) given The Sun an ounce of credibility, and that certainly extends to this “Showbiz” reporting they [...] There's more...

You Are Smart, You Are Important

I haven’t always been studious, but I have always loved to write. When I was fifteen I wrote a story for my English class for which I was getting fairly average grades at the time and when I got it back it not only had full marks, but a note that read: To my next Emily Dickinson (or is it Danielle Steele?), This was marvellous. You have a true talent and I hope that you never give it up. Well done.  I think this may have been the moment that a fire was lit under my arse and that I was able to salvage my flailing academic career and end up at one of the best universities in the world reading English Literature years later. For those of you new to this website or my social media accounts, Sex At Oxbridge (not sex on a bridge) is the name of the blog I started in my second year of university. Oxbridge is the combination of  Oxford and Cambridge…I’ve never made which one I went to public information because given the heavy press attention this blog once had, I wasn’t keen for my identity to be revealed while I was still studying. I began writing the [...] There's more...

What Happens When You Blog About Sex At Oxbridge

In 2010 I started a blog called Sex at Oxbridge… only it’s not really explicitly about sex. Awkward at Oxbridge is probably more apt. Originally posted on Nov. 6, 2013, at 11:03 p.m. I’ve always loved writing, so when I first heard of the concept of blogging I found it vaguely intriguing.   tumblr.com When I started reading blogs about sex written by women I was pretty disappointed at how un-relatable they were. tumblr.com I, like most warm-blooded creatures, enjoy sex. So I thought my dating life would be an interesting topic to write about.   tumblr.com That and the fact that I was at a top university. Namely, Oxford or Cambridge. I’ve never revealed which. Mostly because I figured, why isolate my audience by appealing to just one of the Oxbridge universities? postgrad.com Because I put “sex” in the name, people assumed the blog would be all about this … tumblr.com But really my stories are more like this.   wordpress.com And when sex is involved, it’s a bit like this.   tumblr.com It took less than half of a day for the media to catch onto what I was doing. And when they did, the combination of “sex” and [...] There's more...

Sex at Oxbridge, Buzzfeed and Louis Tomlinson

I wanted to take a moment to explain to the amazing people who read what I post on this website and have continued to do so despite me veering a bit off course with what started as a blog about my sex life and has now somehow ended up turning into a blog (albeit temporarily) about One Direction. Anyone who follows me on Twitter or Tumblr knows that I like One Direction. However, I have tried to compartmentalise that side of my interests to Twitter, Tumblr and, until today, Buzzfeed. I started writing articles on the Buzzfeed Community page because, quite simply, they have very convenient software for including multiple forms of media. Also, at one point I was considering applying to write for Buzzfeed and in order to do so you need to build a profile on their website. However, a two-year portfolio of work, with which I had intended to apply to their editorial fellowship progamme with, was erased without reason or explanation today. It was like Jamie in Love Actually watching his manuscript fly into the wind and lake because fucking Aurelia didn’t have her shit together. Thanks to the internet never truly allowing you to delete [...] There's more...